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Originally Posted by PandaMoOo Women are so irrational so often. I've been dating one for 3 years almost now, and despite trying to apply some sort of method to figure out what she means by what she says. Or figure out what she thinks by what she means, I am not better today then I was 1000 days ago. |
That's pretty funny. She'd probbly slap you if she ever read that. Anyway, women can be very emotional, and the monthly mood swings do not help one bit. I think men and women have different ways of thinking, which often makes it difficult to relate to the other.
Let's say one day your girl starts complaining about her jerk of a professor. He keeps picking on her and giving out stupid assignments. At this point your answer can either help you bond with her or will cause an arguement.
WRONG ANSWERS:
"Well what do you want ME to do?"
"Why'd you take that class anyway?"
"Come on, it can't be THAT hard."
Guys tend to approach things from a fix-it point of view. Correct me if I'm wrong, but guys think the reason your girl is complaining to you is because she wants you to fix it for her. She's presenting a problem and naturally you want to find an answer to it. Why else would she tell you about it? So you rack your brains for a solution and get frustrated because there isn't really anything you can do. The answers above may be perceived by the girl as attacks. Never remind her it was her fault for being in her current situation, even it was her fault.
CORRECT ANSWERS:
"Wow that sucks! Sounds like you need a hug."
"He definitely sounds like a dickhead."
"Do you need help with anything?"
She just needs an outlet. I complain a hell of a lot, but don't usually expect there to be a solution. Talking about it helps to relieve stress, and often helps a person to come up with their own solution. The answer you give after your girl's bout of venting should be supportive. Show her that you're on HER side. In her current emotional state, anything that sounds remotely "preachy" will be perceived as a sign that you're not with her. Does that make sense?